:/ So I keep seeing people really upset about how Kurt and Blaine acted towards each other at particular moments of this episode. And I get it, in a way, because at the end of the day we all just want them to love each other and be happy and cheery.
But that’s just not how relationships are all the time.
These fights we keep getting? They’re exploring each of them, individually and within their relationship, and how they do and don’t work together, what their assumptions and understandings of their relationship are, and what it actually is. This isn’t just Kurt and Blaine growing up, this is KurtandBlaine growing up. They’re showing us their strengths together and their weaknesses and how they’re learning them and learning to work through them. It’s exciting to see them be real.
So yeah, Blaine had some pretty mean thoughts about Kurt.
And yeah, Kurt was pretty rough in that fencing match.
But, honestly, that’s part of love sometimes. I mean, how many of us love our parents? Or have a close relationship with at least one of them? Or even a fantastic friend that you love and could tell anything to?
Don’t you have days, moments, where you are so frustrated with something they’re doing or not doing or said and you just want to shove them out of the nearest window? Because they’re acting “dumb” or “stupid” and you don’t understand why because you can’t see their internal monologue?
That was Kurt and Blaine this episode. Kurt more so, I’d say. He’s got no idea what is going on with Blaine, only that he’s not how he usually is, and it starts getting annoying. To him there’s no concrete reason that Blaine’s given him for what’s going on.
Like, this is real life, these are realistic elements to most relationships. Anything that has two people coming together for something is going to have its bumps and snarling matches. That’s how you learn the absolute worst of each other, and then (as Kurt and Blaine are doing) you see it, talk about it, and take it into what your relationship already is and give that worst its own space. Without that worst, they aren’t being honest with each other or to themselves.
It’s always going to be there. Some days, you wake up and you just want to wring their necks for something completely pointless, but these two are learning how to deal with that now. And it’s great. It’s better to have these fights now than later, because it’ll only get harder the more settled into a conception of a “perfect life” they get.
They’re both human, they can both be absolutely awful and completely amazing. Sometimes at the same time. I, personally, love getting to see them be real people. To step outside of that high school ideal of what romance is and face reality and the marriage they’re moving towards.